Love.
It’s our essence, the very core of what it means to be human.
It’s not a “you have it, or you don’t”.
The capacity to love is already there inside of you. It’s not something that we do; it’s simply who we are.
Waiting to be a balm to a weary world…
Waiting to heal, bless, renew, and restore.
Family love, romantic love, the love of an old friendship – it’s not only in our nature to love, it’s our evolutionary advantage.
It’s also our highest calling as human beings to love another person fully and completely.
In fact, relationships are our biggest opportunity for spiritual growth.
We all come to relationships with different wiring, conditioning, cultures, belief systems, biochemistry, and a blueprint for what love looks like.
And yet we think our experience of how love should be is the same as our partner’s…
Often, we think we’ve made a mistake or lost love when conflict arises or the chemistry subsides. In reality this is our opportunity to go deeper…
People think relationships are about selecting the right person…
When they are actually about the part of yourself you select to bring into the relationship every single day…
The state of any relationship is the state you bring to it.
We all have a choice in the state we bring to the relationship. While we’re doing the dishes, lying next to each other in bed at night, or running out the door late for an appointment, there is a choice in what part of ourselves we bring to the table.
We have many different parts of ourselves.
Are you selecting the critical one? The complainer? The playful one? The sensual one? The problem solver?
We’ve all been harsh, unkind, or yelled in the moment. And we probably felt bad about it later…
But over time those negative interactions create a stacking effect that often ends in a person questioning the relationship.
For every negative interaction, a relationship needs five positive ones to counteract. For an extraordinary relationship, the ratio should be twenty to one.
Our relationships are sacred learning ground. A place to fall and get back up, time and time again.
Maybe today is an opportunity for a positive interaction where there may be a pattern for a negative one…
Maybe your gift for your loved one tomorrow is the gift of your state; one that is loving and passionate…
Or maybe this is an opportunity for you to release and soften…and to say yes to the possibility of welcoming love into your life…
Because no matter the situation, there is always room for love.
That’s experiencing this life at a higher level.
That’s spiritual growth.
Cheers to love (the messy, beautiful kind),
